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loveandthevillage: A Guy’s Guide To Female Body Language

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loveandthevillage:

A Guy’s Guide To Female Body Language

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ryanbrazell
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skittone
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:(. Too true.

"Northerners indulge in an extremely dangerously luxury. They seem to feel that because they fought..."

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“Northerners indulge in an extremely dangerously luxury. They seem to feel that because they fought on the right side during The Civil War, and won, they have earned the right to merely deplore what is going on in the South, without taking any responsibility for it; and that they can ignore what is happening in Northern cities because what is happening in Little Rock or Birmingham is worse. Well, in the first place, it is not possible for anyone who has not endured both to know which is ‘worse.’ I know Negroes who prefer the South and white Southerners, because ‘At least there, you haven’t got to play any guessing games!’ The guessing games referred to have driven more than one Negro into the narcotics ward, the madhouse or the river.”

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James Baldwin

Um…James was not here for the MYTH that racism doesn’t exist in the northern states of the U.S. I’ve encountered so many White northerners that are like…”what racism?” Seriously. He wrote this over 5 decades ago and it’s still relevant. Many Northern Whites and Whites who live in the U.K. are deep in their denial about racism. Deep. I had a White male photographer (I’m a photographer; I used to chat with a lot of them via Twitter) insist that racism doesn’t exist in the U.K. I was like…how would you know? How? You don’t experience it. Black photographers who live there had another story to tell, however.

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ryanbrazell
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This is the point I make to anyone who's snarky about my moving back to the South after having been in SF for a while.
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Courtney
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Other People's Identities Are Not Your Costume

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[Content Note: Transphobia; othering.]

Every year, as Halloween approaches, I'm obliged to write a post about how other people's identities are not costumes. We're getting an early start this year, as Halloween retailers are stocking, or promising threatening to stock, Caitlyn Jenner costumes. I won't post a picture of the "unisex" costume being modeled by a man, but there is one at this link, if you are inclined to take a look at how dreadful it really is.
The outrage began earlier this month after we reported Spirit Costumes' intention to sell the costume — though it still hasn't been listed on the company's website.

But Spirit Halloween publicist Trisha Lombardo said she personally didn't see any problem with it.

"Caitlyn Jenner has proven to be the most important real-life superhero of the year, and Spirit Halloween is proud (of) the costume that celebrates her," she said at the time.
This? Is bullshit. The costume is, like most Halloween costumes, meant to be absurd and comical. No cis person will be buying this costume to honor, or "celebrate," Caitlyn Jenner. It's a mockery. And Spirit Halloween publicist Trisha Lombardo knows that, even if she wants to pretend she doesn't.

But the quality and intent of the costume isn't even especially relevant, because even if it were somehow tastefully done (whatever the fuck that means), the issue is treating Caitlyn Jenner's identity as a costume in the first place.

Other people's identities are not your costume. Rinse and repeat as many times as necessary. For fuck's sake.
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ryanbrazell
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Fuming.
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kleer001
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I would add to say that "Other people's well established culturaly bound identities are not fit for entertainment costumes." I know some people that identify strongly with being a cat/dog/fox/etc... Aka furry. But that doesn't mean we need to stop all sports mascots. Does it?
ryanbrazell
4 days ago
What the fuck are you even talking about.

najarala: najarala: less “if you’re cis you shouldn’t use these pronouns” and more “hey if you...

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najarala:

najarala:

less “if you’re cis you shouldn’t use these pronouns” and more “hey if you feel good with those pronouns you’re probably not cis.”

help more people experiment with their gender and stop telling everyone who isn’t 100% sure of their transness that they’re cis.

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ryanbrazell
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I wish more people, regardless of their gender identity, would explore pronouns outside of the she/her and he/him defaults.
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Courtney
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feministbatwoman: basedgodtookmyusername: Single me vs me in a...

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feministbatwoman:

basedgodtookmyusername:

Single me vs me in a relationship

oh god, it’s me.

When I first started dating Darius, apparently my friends started referring to him as “[singsong voice w jazz hands] Daaaariuuuuuus” behind my back because of how I wouldn’t shut up about how great he was all the time.

Which is to say, I laughed at this vine for 10 solid minutes.

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ryanbrazell
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A+
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note-a-bear: Slayretha in the house

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Slayretha in the house

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